Oh boy! I am a young cis woman who had a hysterectomy, and let me tell you, radfems get real fucking weird about it.
I had all of my internal reproductive organs because I have an autoimmune disease that was attacking those organs, and I was in catastrophic pain, and that serious risk of dying. I have been told by radfams that:
- I wasn't really sick, I just didn't love my self as a woman, and I needed to get over my internalized misogyny, and then all of my gynecological troubles would go away.
- I was being lied to by doctors in league with "the trans lobby" because trans women were jealous of my divine generative female power.
- My pain was a manifestation of the internal conflict that arose within me over the fact that I knew that I shouldn't really accept that my (trans) brother is a guy, and if I just let myself face the truth that my brother was actually still my sister, this would all go away.
- That I had mutilated myself because of my internalized misogyny.
- That my hysterectomy was the Western secular misogynistic medical establishment's answer to female genital mutilation.
These are each batshit in their own special way, but the ones that involve in accusation of the medical establishment doing this to me for their own nefarious reasons, feel especially obnoxious to me, because I had to fight tooth and nail to get a hysterectomy. In spite of the fact that I had hemorrhaged on four separate occasions, and had to have emergency surgeries, and in spite of the fact that I had had a diagnosis since I was 18 in which the appropriate course of treatment was the removal of my internal reproductive organs, it took until I was 30, twelve years, during which time I was in excruciating pain, and had as I said four incidents of life threatening hemorrhage. I had multiple surgeons tell me flat out that yeah, I needed a hysterectomy, but they didn't feel comfortable giving me one, because they were afraid I would regret it. I don't know about you, but I'm pretty sure you have to be alive to regret something, and I wanted to continue to be alive. That modern Western medical establishment sure is misogynistic, and that is part of the reason it took me twelve fucking years to get a hysterectomy.
I didn't get a hysterectomy because my doctor got her jollies mutilating my reproductive organs, or because the trans lobby wanted to steal my magic womb. I didn't get a hysterectomy because *spins wheel* modern beauty culture and plastic surgery. I got one because I was gravely ill and in horrible pain, and I had to fight like hell for it.
And I wasn't this sick because I love my brother, or because I didn't love myself enough as a woman. My immune system doesn't care about my feelings. I can't control it with my good vibes. I have some really hairy autoimmune issues. My life would be very different, and substantially easier if I could control my immune system with good vibes and pure thoughts.
And actually if it comes right down to it the person in my family whose experiences are most similar to my own in this regard, are my father's, who had his prostate removed because he had prostate cancer. Did beauty culture and plastic surgery also brainwash him?
But ultimately, none of this matters to radfems, because when have they ever let the truth get in the way of their paranoid fantasies? The one thing that has always been perfectly clear, is that radfems, much like more standard and open supporters of the patriarchy, don't care about me as a woman at all, and see women, by which of course they mean afab people, as inextricable from our wombs. To them, the loss of my uterus is a tragedy, regardless of the fact that it was killing me. And they just can't stop themselves from being absolutely vile about it.